‘It’s not a moral failing’: Central Oregon expert offers holiday mental health and recovery tips
(Update: adding video, interview with Dr. Campbell of Recover Together Bend)
BEND, Ore. (KTVZ) -- The holidays are often portrayed as joyful, warm, and filled with togetherness — but for those in addiction recovery or struggling with mental health challenges, the season can look very different. Instead of comfort, many experience a spike in loneliness, grief, and emotional triggers.
Dr. David Campbell, Clinic and Program Director at Recover Together Bend Treatment Center, says the “holiday ideal” doesn’t match reality for many families.
“The holidays can certainly be a wonderful time for warmth, happiness, togetherness,” Dr. Campbell said Thursday. “But this idealized fantasy of the holidays can actually amplify vulnerabilities and those struggling with mental health and be triggering for people in substance abuse.”
Studies show that up to 50% of people relapse within the first three months of sobriety — and those rates can more than double during the holidays.
Dr. Campbell says some of the most common triggers are the ones right in front of us: family tension, disrupted routines, and returning to old places or people associated with past use.
“We get put back into certain environments where we used to maybe use,” he said. “Empty seats at the table can reopen old grief and loss wounds. Dysfunctional family dynamics can again resurface — that can be deeply triggering and activating for people that struggle.”
He recommends having a plan that includes boundaries, time limits, and support. Communication is key: let someone know you may need to step out, bring a sober friend, or keep a sponsor on standby. Loved ones can also play an important role by simply noticing when someone seems “off.”
“The holidays may not necessarily create pain, but they can certainly illuminate it,” Dr. Campbell said. “And so when we notice that people are struggling, it's not a weakness. It's not a moral failing. It's not a lack of resilience. Being empathetic, kind, courteous, offering connection and support, and a lot of understanding can make all the difference in the world for those that are struggling.”
For anyone who feels this year is hitting harder than usual — maybe drinking more often or withdrawing from others — experts urge that you don’t ignore it. Even small steps can help someone stay grounded and enter the new year on more solid footing.
If you or someone you know is struggling this holiday season, reach out to a mental health professional or someone you trust. You’re not alone.
