Tragedy points to C. Oregon domestic violence issue

A Redmond man’s guilty plea and sentence in the shooting death of his ex-girlfriend puts a tragic spotlight on the issue of domestic violence — a significant problem in Central Oregon that is drawing closer attention.

The parents of Rebekah Gomes had worried that Mario Morataya might hurt her, and warned her, also confronting him on the issue. But they said she didn’t want to believe that could happen, due to her trusting personality.

“In fact, she assured her mother just hours before her death that he would not hurt her,” said Randy Wallace, Gomes’ father, in court on Tuesday.

Deschutes County District Attorney John Hummel said Wednesday that domestic violence is a significant problem in Central Oregon.

“It’s one of our top priorities,” Hummel said.

According to national statistics, one woman in three will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.

“Domestic violence is a lot more common than people think in Deschutes County and in Central Oregon,” said Trish Meyer, assistant director at Saving Grace, a nonprofit focusing on domestic violence.

Meyer said there are clear signs of a relationship gone dangerously wrong.

“Controlling behavior on the abuser’s part, which can lead to the victim being isolated away from family and friends,” Meyer said.

Gomes’ parents said that is exactly what Morataya was trying to do, so they confronted him.

“I said:,’These things I see in your life could lead to you hurting Rebekah. I’m very concerned,'” said Rebekah’s mother, Deanna Wallace. “And then I went to Rebekah.”

Experts say victims often turn a blind eye to their abusive partners’ ways. That’s when family and friends should contact Saving Grace directly.

Over the years, law enforcement officials have started to take domestic violence cases a lot more seriously.

“We clearly understand that when a woman needs help, we need to be there for her,” Hummel said.

In the case of Gomes, the help came too late.

“She just didn’t get out of it soon enough,” Deanna Wallace said.

Now her parents say they hope their daughter’s death will not be in vain.

If you or someone you love is experiencing a similar situation, contact Saving Grace at 541-389-7021. Their 24-hour hotline is open for anyone who has concerns.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.